Purpose of This Blog

As a result of my arrest and conversations I have had with law enforcement officials, counselors, teachers etc., I have come to learn how common (and easy) it has become to have a spouse arrested and falsely accused of a felony in order for people to rid themselves of their partners.

Unless you are independently wealthy, you can easily become the victim of the justice system and lose your personal freedom, your rights, home, livelihood and your children by the accusations of domestic abuse with no proof to back it up.

I want to educate people on how this happened to me so they can be better prepared and prevent it from happening to them.


Sunday, October 11, 2015

Free at Last!




My number was finally called again. My friend had come to see me and she explained to me what had happened. She wanted me to know that if I chose not to be bailed out, I will have a hearing on Monday morning. If I chose to be bailed out, I would have to wait several weeks for my hearing. That is when I would know if my case would be dismissed or if I would be charged. If I was charged I could ask for bail then and would not have to come back.
If I knew then what I know now; it would have been cheaper for me to stay there. I had no idea what I was being charged with. For all I knew my husband could have taken a knife to himself and blamed me for it. I was scared to death; not knowing what else he was capable of.  I looked at my friend. “Please just get me out of here.” I cried.
The bail bondsman came through. I met with him. He told me that it would be another 8-12 hours before I was out. Because I had gone through the process before, it was now a bit easier to tolerate. I finally walked out of the jail at 2:00 am Saturday morning. I had been in the jail since Thursday night but it had seemed like an eternity.

Upon my release I had to turn in my bedding and had to go through the identification process all over again. They walked me up to a particular point and told me to walk along this long hallway. When she opened the door, I saw a hallway that looked a block long and it was very dark. I began to walk but the further I went the slower became my gait became. It was getting darker and I could feel panic beginning to set in. I was so exhausted I had trouble walking. I finally got to a door but was afraid to go through it without permission because I had now been trained to not do anything without permission. I was afraid of getting into trouble again. Finally after a long wait, the door opened and a female officer started yelling at me.
“What the hell took you so long? Do you want to stay here?”
“I didn’t know if I was supposed to wait here or open the door.”
She looked at me with disgust. “You want to leave don’t ya? Geez! Go into the room and sit there until your name is called.”
I did as I was told, sat down and was told to go through some plastic bags that had my clothing and underwear in it and to sign off that everything was there.
“Go change back into your clothes, then go sit in that room and wait until your name is called!”
I waited for what seemed like another half hour. Finally my name was called and I was given one last bag to check which contained my cell phone, driver’s license and a credit card. I was finally escorted to another door down another hallway. I went through another door into a dark waiting area with all kinds of seats and a payphone I could use to call. I called my friends, Arlene and Stewart who said that they had been waiting for my call for the past 24 hours. They immediately rushed over and picked me up.
By the time I got to their house it was around 4:00 am. I didn’t have any clothes to change into.
“Do you have to be at work today?” My friend asked.
“Yes, I have two classes that I have to teach  today.”
“I think it would be best if you didn’t let anyone at work know what happened. Let’s go to a garage sale, and get you some clothes so you can go to work.”
Despite my exhaustion, we hit pay dirt and found clothes that I could wear to work. I finally got to take a shower and reported for work on time. I taught my classes having not slept since the Wednesday night before.
When I arrived at work, my friend and supervisor confronted me. Her face was stricken with worry. “Rhonda! Where the hell have you been? I’ve been trying to get ahold of you for three days!! I worry sick if I can’t get ahold of you!”
I hesitated. A year earlier she and the store manager had discovered copies of my husband's journals that I had been hiding in my teacher’s cabinet. Unsure of what they were, they had read a portion of them and grown very alarmed. They were so concerned that they had even sat me down and talked to me about it, urging me to leave my husband.
“Just as you feared, my husband did do something to me. He accused me of a crime, a felony and had me arrested. I’ve been in jail for the last two and a half days.”
Her face went pale. “Oh my god! I told you! We tried to warn you, Rhonda! We knew he was going to do something like this!”
“How did you know?”
They just stared at me. “Rhonda, I’m going to have to talk to management about this.”
Because I taught children sewing, I had to have a background check and be fingerprinted every two years. I was concerned that this incident was going to have a bad impact upon my work.
“Don’t worry, I’ll talk to corporate and HR on Monday,” she assured me. I went to my classroom and taught for the next 6 hours. I thought I was going to die of exhaustion. I was in a state of trauma. Throughout that day, my supervisors continually checked in on me to make sure I was okay. At the end of the day, using my friend's car, I drove to her home and collapsed. I wasn’t allowed to go back to my home because my husband had put a ten day temporary restraining order on me.